This morning I woke up early and realize 7 years ago today, I walked down the aisle to my best friend. It was probably one of the hottest days of the entire year ( nearly 114 outside ) and I felt terrible for all the boys in their tuxes.
Looking back it’s crazy to think how much time was spent scouring bridal magazines and asking my friends for advice on colors and how to coordinate everything to flow together. I would stress about everything and of course, everything came together in one picture perfect day filled with all my favorite people in one room. I’ve written about our marriage over the years ( five years , six years )
- Learn How To Be Better – I’ve written about being a better wife and share some vulnerable moments with you all. But what I mean by being better is that nobody is perfect and I never expect Zach or myself to have it all together. We just learn how to be better with whatever obstacle is presented to us. We both strive to be better together and apart by giving one another space when needed, keeping communication open and learning to just appreciate the time together.
- Work On Yourself – It can be tempting to blame your partner when your relationship is upsetting you or to think like “If only he didn’t care about…” These emotion start to divide your relationship. Having little steps to learn more about yourself, how you operate and what your triggers are can help hopefully eliminate fights in the future.
- Experience Together – Life is a series of ups and downs and experiencing these emotions together is what makes life more interesting. We make it a point to try and do a vacation together without the kids to really appreciate one another again. We’ll rent a bike, go on a hike or try a new restaurant jus the two of us.
- Have Friends That Are Also Couples – It was a challenge when we first moved to Atlanta to try and find a date night together because none of our friends had kids. Now that we’re getting older, several friends have kids and are now couples which we can relate with.
- Communicate Often– Zach and I make it a point to have as much open communication as we can. We both like to know what time the other one will be getting home after a long day of work or out with friends. It’s not that we need to check in but we just like to have a plan on what’s going on. We talk throughout the day too and are always honest with one another about our feelings and what we’re doing. This really helps us both feel appreciated and heard.
- Remember Nobody Is Perfect– It’s so easy to compare yourself to other couples who seem to be more successful, have everything together but in reality, it’s not the case. Social Media has a huge influence in playing a pivotal role in how couples should act or be 24/7. What makes a successful marriage are not the issues that happen but how you handle them together.
- Look At The Humor – Zach is always great about looking at the bright side of any issue and laughing it off. I tend to take things more to heart but always appreciate how he can let several things roll off of him. Sometimes we dance around our kitchen to songs that make us laugh and smile. Laughing together is one of the best things I love about our marriage
I’m sure there are several more things that I can say about how to have a successful marriage but these are the key things that have made us enjoy one another, our time together and knowing our choice was correct when we said ” I Do” seven years ago.