I’m a working mom. A full time working mom to be exact. I’m up before my daughter is. I’m in the car driving an hour to work and then sitting and running around for the next 9 hours. I’m back in my car driving another hour back home which leaves me exactly two hours to spend time with my daughter and husband.
What do I do in those two hours you ask? I’m prepping for dinner, shoving the cat some unwanted scraps from last night’s meal in her dish, scrubbing the dishes, picking up toys or old wads of paper Lily didn’t want to use around her play area, putting a load in the wash and remembering that I can’t do it all. In those precious 2 hours I realized, I’m doing everything I don’t need to be doing. What I should be doing, is spending it with my two year old toddler.
I should be coloring with her at her table, playing in her colorful tent, reading a book in the corner or kicking a plastic ball around the family room to score that amazing goal between the living room pillows. I should be laughing, giggling or tickling her sweet feet. I should be doing all the things I can to spend those precious few hours with her at this tender age. After all, those two hours go by like a flash and I’m jolted back into Mom mode of getting my house clean and organized again.
I realize the other night that instead of just cooking by myself, I should be encouraging Lily to help me. I should be making sure that she helps put her clothes in her laundry basket or helps me pick up the toys in her play room. All these things that I do myself, should be a game to her to not only encourage her to help with things around the house, but because it’s extra time for her and I to be together. Isn’t that the important thing?
I only get two hours. I need be present in them. The dishes and cleaning can wait until she goes to bed because right now, I need to just be with her. I need to model what a mother should be and that’s being present with and for them. After all, being present is my word of the year and I need to keep reminding myself to be in the moment with her.