“Why don’t you wear make up on Insta Stories?”
“Keep wearing glasses loser.”
“Do you even eat at all? You’re too skinny”
“God, don’t you even have a life? You’re wasting it”
Happy Monday there gorgeous friend! I’ve been thinking about a lot of things lately and one of the questions I usually get when growing my brand isn’t all about the amazing way to grow a business, but how to DEAL with the haters that come along with being successful!
Woah! That’s a tough question for sure because as a blogger or someone whose just on social media a lot, you’re opening yourself up for a lot of criticism for sure! Above are some comments I’ve gotten from those of you out there who are kind enough to leave these little notes in my inbox or my email. And I will be honest and say… they are tough to read.
But here’s the deal and here’s what I learned.
It’s not really YOU. Have you heard the term “Haters gonna hate” or “Kill with Kindness” ? These are both so true. Hates really do hate on people. They are probably hurting, upset about something or battling something inside and so to make themselves feel better, they hate on you.
But here’s what you can do in return. Treat them with kindness. It’s as easy as that and rightly so. Those individuals are 1/1000 and they will come at you as you continue to grow because with success comes those that are trying to put you down. Jealousy in my opinion is the root for all the hate.
I’ve learned to just delete those people who come into my inbox, my DM box or my Twitter. I don’t need your negativeness to ruin my day because in truth, I am sensitive to it. I also know that I have a strong tribe of amazing bloggers who will support, uplift and encourage me when a troll or comment happen to come on.
And sometimes, I’ll write something nice back to show that although they may try to effect me, it doesn’t work.